Crystal Kelley, a single mother of two who’d recently lost her job, was a surrogate faced with a terrible choice: terminate her pregnancy as the biological parents told her to do, or keep the child herself – a child who had severe medical problems and only a small chance at a “normal” life. Despite an offer of $10,000 to have the abortion, she chose to disobey the biological parents.
“I told them that they had chosen me to carry and protect this child, and that was exactly what I was going to do,” Kelley said in the linked CNN article.
In the end, Kelley found a home for the child, referred to in the article as Baby S. She was adopted into a loving family with the means and will to care for her.
There are ethical issues here outside of the issue of abortion. Some may believe, as the biological parents appear to have, that abortion would have been the most humane choice. But I believe Kelley chose the highest ethic – the preservation of the life of the child.
As a father and a human being, I understand the difficulty of choosing to bring into the world a child who has little to no chance at a normal life, or even survival. But I also believe that’s no one’s choice but God’s.
As Baby S.’s adoptive parents stated in the quote above, “Ultimately, we hold onto a faith that in providing S. with love, opportunity, encouragement, she will be the one to show us what is possible for her life and what she is capable of achieving.”
Doesn’t every child deserve that chance? Would that more people would choose the life of the child.